When talking about bringing up your stepson, their journey to being grown-ups should not be left out. This is because the aim of raising stepsons is to mold them into being responsible men with virtues. Bringing up and initiating young men into adulthood has been done by men in cultures around the world. Young men would be mentored by village elders to ensure that they master the art of performing their duties and responsibilities well. Maintainance of the manhood by young men after they became men was an effort throughout their lives.
Young men nowadays are allowed to create their picture of being a man based on what they have been exposed to, view and catch unlike in the old days where men had the responsibility of leading them to manhood. This is why so many young men grow up without direction on what they are actually supposed to do as men because they are expected to figure out for themselves what manhood entails. A new stepfather blending with the family finds it challenging to know his position in the family and to determine how well to bond with sons or son not belonging them.
A lot of energy, time and understanding will be required from you as a stepfather to know the feelings of your stepson towards himself and the blended family before creating a new relationship with him. Below are the tips that will assist you to form a strong bond with your stepson that will enable you to raise him to a grown man. Partnering with your stepson’s biological parents will enable you to have their support or even make them aware of your role in the life of their son.
The mother to your stepson has had experience raising the child and knows him better than you. Therefore, she should be involved. Building a relationship with your stepson will require that you talk to her mother about the concerns she had while raising the boy. Any issues that come up with your stepson will need his mother to make the final decision on handling him. Establishing a great relationship with your stepson’s father can also help improve the relationship between you and your stepson. Raising your stepson to manhood will be significantly aided if you make an effort of contacting his biological father and learning the ideas he had of bringing up his boy and reassuring him that you are not replacing him in his son’s life.
You will have to create a vision for your stepson in conjunction with his mother to make him attain set goals of manhood. The vision created will help develop your stepson emotionally, physically, intellectually and spiritually into the kind of man admired by the society.